5 Ways To Be A Good Helper To Your Husband

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 2:18

My husband and I recently had a misunderstanding about church. I was so full of selfishness and pride that I was not open to seeing things from his perspective until the Holy Spirit convicted me. At that moment, I recognized I was not helping my husband but only thinking about myself. Because of my actions, my husband felt discouraged. I learned a few lessons from this situation, and I want to share five ways to be a good helper to your husband.

Trust God with your spouse

First, we can trust God with our husbands. God leads and cares for us and does the same for our spouses. As our husbands seek God in all things, we can rest knowing God is leading them. Therefore, we can trust their decisions because we know that all things work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

When we practice trusting God with our spouses, we are more supportive wives as we submit to their leadership. As we encourage our husbands, we help them, and they can confidently lead us well.

Don’t try to be the Holy Spirit

Next, we can be good helpers to our husbands by not trying to be the Holy Spirit to them. With prayer and discernment from the Lord, we should talk with our spouses about the concerning behaviors we see in their lives. However, there are times when we should step back and let the Holy Spirit convict them. There are seasons when our rebukes may do more damage to our husbands, even though we intend it for good. For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

Listen

Active listening is another way we can help our husbands. When we speak to our spouses, we want to be heard and understood, and our husbands desire the same. Instead of listening to respond, let us practice listening to understand. Furthermore, let us learn to hear their heart.

Reflective listening can be difficult, and I want to encourage us all with these bible verses. Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (James 1:19). For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10) As we obey the Word, we honor God and help our husbands.

Pray for your spouse

Additionally, it is so important that we pray for our husbands. We can be encouraged, knowing that God hears our prayers. Praying helps our spouses because God works in their lives as we faithfully pray for them. There have been times when I have prayed for my husband about certain things and have seen God answer my prayers. Give everything to God in prayer and let Him work it out according to his plan.

Remember that no one is perfect

Lastly, no one is perfect. We all fall short of the glory of God daily (Romans 3:23). We all need grace upon grace. Just as God forgives us, he forgives our husbands even when they sin against Him and us. As we remember God’s amazing love for us, it should humble us. When we are meek, we can live with the awareness of how much we are loved by God and love others. When we walk in love, we can encourage our husbands to do likewise.

Let us strive, by grace, to be good helpers to our husbands as we walk with Jesus and live out his mission to unite all things to himself (Ephesians 1:10). Marriage between a man and a woman should be a beautiful picture of God’s unconditional love for us. Let us love each other well so that those who live for the world can see Christ in us and come to know Him.

I am so grateful you stopped by, and thank you for taking the time to read this post!

Check out the last post, End Of The Week guided meditation.

~Danielle